When we raise a child or spend time with a child, we constantly expect him to do something new and learn something new. In particular, parents are more impatient than anyone and their children may be upset or even worried when they cannot do what they want. However, when you know what your children can or cannot do according to their age, you will not force them too much and worry yourself in vain.
What can your child not be able to do in the first six years?
Failure to Share:
It is not right to expect your child to share his / her belongings with someone at an early age. Because the concept of freedom for children at this age is limited to the things they have, they have the right to use them as they wish and they want to use them to the end. But when we ask them to share these things with someone else (when we wait), we take away their sense of freedom and leave them with a situation they never expected. We must not force them to share and wait for their time.
Not being able to apologize:
Apology is one of the first rules we teach children. However, expecting them to understand and apply this etiquette is not appropriate for the child's age development. Because to apologize, the child needs to have empathy and understand that what he is doing is wrong. However, at this age, when the child is busy discovering his own feelings, he cannot understand the feelings of another person, so we cannot expect them to learn to apologize in real terms.
Being unable to focus on more than one thing:
If you give more than one activity at the same time to children at an early age, this can force them and cause them to fail. It is therefore necessary to give instructions to children of this age one by one and explain them when they need them.
Children have different social-emotional developments, so the time for each child to be ready for social relationships does not coincide. Whenever children feel ready for social intercourse, they begin to make their own friends and develop relationships with people without the need for your help. If you constantly force them to make friends when they are not ready for a social relationship, you may damage their self-confidence.
Inability to express himself very well:
Children do not undergo any training in language development until they start primary school, they learn only the words and sounds they hear around them. Any kind of experience does not make them reach a sufficient level although it affects positively the language development. Thus, children may not have the vocabulary and ability to express themselves. It is therefore very important to listen to them and understand what they want to tell. Otherwise, we force them to do something they don't want to do, and we break their trust and peace.
Being able to distinguish between imagination and reality:
Thanks to their advanced imagination and creativity, children often construct many games that we find difficult to understand. Various television programs and toys also trigger their imagination and cause children to live in a different dimension. So when your children can't distinguish between reality and imagination, don't ignore them and try to capture what they feel. Failure to understand them can cause them to distance themselves from you as much as they can damage their trust.
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