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Psychology of pregnancy

Psychology of pregnancy

Pregnancy and childbearing have deep emotional implications for the expectant mother. The cost of having a child means increasing responsibility for the mother and the loss of much of her independence. Pregnancy is an important turning point in a woman's life. According to some instinct, while considered to be learned behavior according to some, in both cases is a phenomenon that serves the continuation of the lineage. Therefore, pregnancy is not only a physiological part of the expectant mother, but also carries a social meaning. In addition to hormonal and physiological changes in women, it also affects the relationship and communication with spouse, family, friends and other social environment. In short, pregnancy psychology can be positive or negative. There is a process from mild emotional difficulties to psychological diseases. Pregnancy is both a period of time that includes hope and development, and a period in which a woman can feel vulnerable and experience emotional turmoil. Many women may experience emotional ups and downs that they cannot control during this period. Every couple wants to have a baby for different reasons; to fulfill the dreams of childhood, to please another (wife, first child, parents), to challenge the biological clock, to increase the satisfaction in marriage, etc.… All of these reasons; pregnancy, childbirth and mother-baby relationship. These reasons look at the concept of having children from different points and make different definitions. Pregnancy; Even if it is the fruit of a loving relationship, whether it is the result of unplanned / poor timed or abrasive treatment, the main concerns in the process are the same: Pregnancy? What about the birth? What about the baby? What kind of mother will I be? Not knowing what kind of experience she is expecting while waiting for her baby is a state of complete uncertainty. With these restrictions, there are concerns about whether the baby is good, whether it will be born healthy, whether the birth will be comfortable or not, whether it will be a good mother. At the same time, there will be some disturbing situations that may occur regardless of pregnancy; like nausea, feelings of fatigue, suddenly repressing sleep, variable mood, suddenly feeling very fragile, weak and dependent while feeling strong. Each trimester (3-month periods) presents its own difficulties; these difficulties can be listed as follows;First trimesterThe first stage of pregnancy is defined as a period in which opposite feelings develop. Conflicts related to the roles of femininity and motherhood stimulate emotions such as anger, unhappiness and aggression, which will increase the psychological distress of the pregnant woman, leading to little joy in pregnancy and not wanting pregnancy. Some pregnant women blame the baby for feeling nausea, vomiting, fatigue, weakness, drowsiness, while blaming himself for thinking so. There are spiritual conflicts. Mother; pregnancy and the inability to fully feel the baby may experience the boredom and guilt. Since she is an inexperienced pregnant woman, she may not be able to distinguish what she should or should not do, and therefore may impose intense restrictions on her. Since most abortions occur in the first weeks, they may have concerns about miscarriage and have nightmares. Measures should be taken to reduce the risk of family conflict, as well as informing fathers to participate in the birth process and ensuring that they are solution-oriented.Second trimesterIn this period, mothers feel physically better. Nausea-vomiting, fatigue, such as discomfort. Pregnancy was accepted. The opposite emotions have disappeared. During this period, pregnant women may give emotional hesitant reactions to all things, such as being overly sensitive, breaking quickly, sometimes annoying and sometimes being happy happily. This is the period when the pregnant woman is open to learning. However, during this period, double and triple screening tests, which check the development of the baby, detailed ultrasound can create stress for the mother. If these tests show suspicious results, further examinations are performed and conclusions are drawn about the baby's development. Since this process involves the risk of losing the baby, it may adversely affect the psychological state of the couple.Third trimesterIt is the period when the mother's body changes and the birth is approaching. As the fetus movements begin, she starts to communicate with the pregnant baby. Indicates that the psychological connection with the fetus has begun. Due to the growth of pregnancy, movements decreased and fatigue increased. Mother's daily life becomes difficult, she gets tired of pregnancy, wants to end as soon as possible, worries about birth begins to increase. He may be afraid to leave the house alone, his nervousness may increase. With her growing belly and breasts, the mother begins to see herself as a “mother çok rather than a“ woman ”. The breasts, which were previously sexual objects, were filled with milk and became objects that undertook the mission of motherhood and feeding the baby. The sexual life of a woman who is completely “mother” may be disrupted and perceive herself as unattractive. It may take months for the mother to feel her former sexual identity; sexual intercourse is difficult to return to normal before 6 weeks after birth. Wife-husband roles in marriage turn into parents roles. The differentiation of roles is also a transition period for marriage and may not be easy for every couple. In this period, the support of family members, the baby should be looked forward to, the physical and emotional place at home should be prepared. The mother's trust in the hospital and the doctor she will give birth, and the detailed speech she gives to her doctor about birth will reduce the fear of birth and worries about her baby.Psychologist Burcu DAĞLI