Pregnancy and birth is one of the most important turning points in a woman's life. Regarding these processes, which are as difficult as they are important, Psychiatrist Dr.Banu Büyükkal from Anadolu Medical Center offers some suggestions to expectant mothers and mothers.
The process that enables the continuation of the species for each living being to conceive and give birth to children. Although the debate over whether the desire to have a child is an instinct or not, getting pregnant and giving birth is one of the most important turning points in a woman's life. While some women can easily get pregnant, for others pregnancy is the result of a long and weary struggle. In any case, a woman who learns that she is pregnant can often have mixed feelings at first, having trouble believing it. Dr. Banu Büyükkal said, ecan Excitement, fear, enthusiasm, concern, pride or 'what now?' gibi The woman, who was her mother's daughter until then, suddenly realizes that she will be someone's mother. It is easier for women with an open, sharing, fulfilled marriage to share their negative feelings with their spouses and to focus on the nine months ahead and beyond. In shaky marriages and especially unwanted pregnancies, negative emotions are more difficult to overcome, and without the help of specialist, anxiety and fears may grow with pregnancy. Instead of imagining that the child will grow up as an independent and happy individual in such relationships, perhaps the mission of saving the marriage or restoring the mother's unhappiness can be attributed to the child. However, this is too much to bear for a baby who is not aware of anything yet. Therefore, it is the healthiest approach to deal with these problems by contacting a specialist, if necessary, in the nine months before birth, or in the case of surprise pregnancies, before planning to have a baby. ”
Those who choose to be parents should prepare both their financial and emotional resources in advance. It is certain that in the forty weeks that the baby grew in the womb, extremely unusual changes took place in the woman's body. But nine months may seem too long at first, but it's enough to get used to the idea of becoming a parent and prepare for the baby.
Support is a must
Men, like women, have mixed feelings. They can experience excitement, anxiety and role concerns about being a father. Dr. Büyükkal says: çoğu Since most men are not as comfortable as women in expressing their emotions, keeping them quiet may increase their stress even more. Therefore, they may not be supportive enough against their spouses. However, sharing the positive and negative feelings experienced by the parents during pregnancy will help them develop a healthier perspective and be more prepared for the birth and after. ”
Women generally think that they will have great enthusiasm as they take their babies into their arms because they will get rid of the problems of pregnancy. However, many women have feelings of sadness, nervousness, anxiety, exhaustion and inadequacy. This condition, called postnatal sadness, usually occurs within two to three weeks after birth. Dr. Kal Usually, the sudden drop in hormone levels, swelling in the breasts, changes in the home, new responsibilities that the baby brings with it, ”he says.“ This is not a disease and goes away spontaneously with the support of your wife, family, friends and rest. . However, within six months of birth, not enjoying life, lack of appetite, lack of energy, over or under-sleeping, feelings of worthlessness or guilt, excessive nervousness, concerns about self-harm or crying, etc. If symptoms of depression, such as postpartum (puerperium) depression may be the condition called and need treatment by the specialist. Taking the baby frequently to a pediatrician for no reason may also indicate postpartum depression. Women who have had previous depression, marital problems, no family support, and experienced stressful events during pregnancy or birth are more likely to develop postpartum depression. No woman should be expected to be a anne super mother.. Every woman should be open to herself and her husband about what she can and cannot do and should not hesitate to ask for help if necessary. Giving birth brings tremendous changes, and it is never easy to be a parent. But seeing the baby grow from day to day, watching him turn into someone with his own personality, will make you forget all the difficulties. ”